The Mall Trip
Aug. 30th, 2015 02:38 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
I was going to meet my friend today at the mall. My sister wanted to come, because she was new in town and wanted to meet what amounted to my closest friend here at university. We've been friends for over a year. We met during our time at the dorms, and she was one of the only good things to come out of any of my dorm experiences.
But we waited for over an hour at the mall today, and she never showed up. I tried texting her, calling her -- nothing. And I'd walked in the rain all the way to the mall to meet her on time.
Eventually, me and my sister just began shopping around the mall ourselves. It wasn't a complete waste -- we got cookies from the cookie stand, my sister got a new hair ribbon, and I got some air freshener for the apartment. But I was still kind of disappointed and annoyed.
In the end, I texted her this: "Well, I just went shopping with my sister instead and am about to head home. I hope everything's okay. I think this is kind of rude."
Understatement of the year.
It's always annoying and disappointing when you realize you're not as important to a friend as you thought you were. This girl used to be really cool. She was totally unafraid of what anyone thought of her, an artist who was on the school Quidditch team -- the nerdiest sport in all of history. She loved My Chemical Romance and iZombie. She had this boyfriend she'd been in love with since high school, and she was expressive and funny, nonjudgmental and very supportive.
We met once this year before school started, outside the student bookstore. And, she hugged me and said hello and everything, but I don't know. There was something different about her. I just couldn't put my finger on what it was.
Anyway, I'm not too upset. I have my sister, and next week I start attending meetings for the feminist club and the international affairs club, where I should meet plenty of new people. It was just kind of disappointing that my old friends won't transfer over. I go into every new friendship hoping it'll last forever, just because that's the only way I know how to be. But sometimes I get let down. That happened with my goth friend, the one I went to Projekt Revolution with in high school, too. She just... stopped responding. And sometimes I'll think I'm becoming friends with someone, but then they'll ignore me -- that's happened too.
Honestly, I wish she'd have just told me she wasn't going to show up. I'd have preferred honesty.
Why do social lives have to be so complicated?
Anyway, now I'm back at home. I'm sipping some herbal tea, hiding from the rain and watching TV with my sister.
UPDATE: She texted back hours later and said she was sick. Do I believe her?
But we waited for over an hour at the mall today, and she never showed up. I tried texting her, calling her -- nothing. And I'd walked in the rain all the way to the mall to meet her on time.
Eventually, me and my sister just began shopping around the mall ourselves. It wasn't a complete waste -- we got cookies from the cookie stand, my sister got a new hair ribbon, and I got some air freshener for the apartment. But I was still kind of disappointed and annoyed.
In the end, I texted her this: "Well, I just went shopping with my sister instead and am about to head home. I hope everything's okay. I think this is kind of rude."
Understatement of the year.
It's always annoying and disappointing when you realize you're not as important to a friend as you thought you were. This girl used to be really cool. She was totally unafraid of what anyone thought of her, an artist who was on the school Quidditch team -- the nerdiest sport in all of history. She loved My Chemical Romance and iZombie. She had this boyfriend she'd been in love with since high school, and she was expressive and funny, nonjudgmental and very supportive.
We met once this year before school started, outside the student bookstore. And, she hugged me and said hello and everything, but I don't know. There was something different about her. I just couldn't put my finger on what it was.
Anyway, I'm not too upset. I have my sister, and next week I start attending meetings for the feminist club and the international affairs club, where I should meet plenty of new people. It was just kind of disappointing that my old friends won't transfer over. I go into every new friendship hoping it'll last forever, just because that's the only way I know how to be. But sometimes I get let down. That happened with my goth friend, the one I went to Projekt Revolution with in high school, too. She just... stopped responding. And sometimes I'll think I'm becoming friends with someone, but then they'll ignore me -- that's happened too.
Honestly, I wish she'd have just told me she wasn't going to show up. I'd have preferred honesty.
Why do social lives have to be so complicated?
Anyway, now I'm back at home. I'm sipping some herbal tea, hiding from the rain and watching TV with my sister.
UPDATE: She texted back hours later and said she was sick. Do I believe her?